I love quoting movies. I think there even may be some sort of “sub-culture” of people who also speak in movie and tv quotes. We understand each other, laugh and nod to acknowledge not only that we know it, but love it too. It becomes just a normal part of conversation.
“I want it now, daddy” comes from one of my favorites, Willie Wonka and the Chocolate Factory. Good old Veruca Salt. What an awesome and appropriate name. The name Veruca actually means vivacious, strong willed. Uhh, She nails that.
Her bratty entitlement in the movie reminds me of real life. We want everything right now, or yesterday. We want an immediate fix to any and everything, because we feel entitled on some level. We need it faster, better and and end goal of always trying to be number one.
I’m not becoming unglued and that all these wants are not beneficial. I LOVE driving my car that is smooth and faaasssst. I dream of the day that I get to upgrade the the even smoother and faster model with the letters RS. That’s my Veruca wish. I love the benefit I receive from technology. I always upgrade my phone to the better version. I am Veruca all day.
I just don’t want to be Veruca anymore. I am turned off by entitlement. In my experience entitlement usually leads to a casualty of some kind. It just hasn’t ever truly made me happy, because I just kept wanting more. I was never ever satiated.
My career in sales has been driven by a Veruca mentality. It’s all about getting what you want at the end of the day. For me sales and life are kind of parallels. I am getting paid to get what I want. My job is to try and convince people that what I have is what they want. Here’s my life parallel now. In my life, I always have an end goal, what I want. It could be trying to convince someone that the knowledge and information that I possess is greater than theirs, by having a debate. It could be telling an expecting mother what a horrific journey they have with childbirth, the terrible twos, potty training and of course no sleep. Here’s my disconnect. How do we expect to get what we want from someone, if we are not seeking out what their wants are as well.
I decided that I would create my new Veruca. I have figured out how to always get what I want. Just not in the entitled way. It actually is pretty simple when I actually speak it.
I set my want. I determine the path that I predict to be the way to my want. When obstacles arise in my path, I fall back to change agility. I reasses how to get around this obstacle. The obstacle may be more difficult to navigate around and take longer than we would like (ahem), but I know the short term pain is worth the long term payoff. So I continue to pivot and change around to bob and weave my way to my end goal.
It’s a win win. I don’t leave any casualties and I get what I want. I have too many examples to list as to why I ended up here, but here I am.
My end goal is raising MY child to never be willfully ignorant, to never settle for the norm, to get what he wants through coping with change, and to live his best life with respect, love, kindness and faith. Next obstacle to overcome- school. GAME ON.
Much love and respect.
Xo -e
The Underground Momma 