Really? Are you just kidding? I gotta get this one out. I have had so many moments recently where I have thought this response in my head when kidding gets carried away. I have said I’m just kidding and had it said back to me. And every single time it has happened I have thought, “are you, though”? Myself especially.
When I take accountability for my own words, I realize that I’m not really kidding at all, I’m really telling the truth in disguise. So when the person responds defensively, I can fall back on, I’m just kidding. Which is supposed to somehow negate what I really meant so they don’t feel badly. If this is the case for anyone who is throwing down with me, there doesn’t need to be clarification, I am totally cool with it. I prefer to know what someone really thinks because I then know how to communicate more effectively for myself and be totally cool with each other. It seems too enabling of insecurities and I’m trying to shed my insecurities as quickly as possible. Insecurities are fueled through fear, and I think we all know how I feel about fear. Bye Felicia!
I love banter and busting chops, it’s hilarious. If and when it comes time to throw down, “Im just kidding”, I’m good, that you’re most likely telling the truth in disguise as well. I can totally take it and won’t get defensive. I plan on being more conscious to not get to the point of saying I’m kidding to anyone without ever, EVER losing my hilarity and banter skills.
Much love and respect.
Xo -e
The Underground Momma 