Rumi has so many amazing quotes. Such a visionary into self love. I can across this quote and immediately thought, PERFECT blog title!! I know that my own life has had massive descents, and some massive rises. It has not been until of recent years that my rise has finally overtaken my descents. I expect I will always have some descents, I am human and have a stubborn Irish free will. What I now know is that I will ALWAYS RISE.
I have the privilege of being a sounding board for a couple of my close girlfriends. As in life, marriage, families, I have listened to personal descents that physically and emotionally disable the women that I love and revere. When speaking about marriages and husbands. The wrongs they have caused, the emotional pains of betrayal and trust, insecurities abound, projection, disrespect and an overall lack of honor, all cause my ego to immediately jump to defend my girls. Protect their egos, tell them what an awful guy he is for wronging them, all the usual immediate and empathetic reactions.
Since finding my own truths in life, I have made a point of never jumping on the husband/spouse bashing bandwagon. Why? Well, I certainly have my history of sins and demons, I know that my selfish insecurities have attributes to emotional torture of guys I have been in relationships with, net net, it’s always a two way street.
Every relationship commands truth and honesty. People always say, “just tell me the truth” We ask “does this make me look fat?”, “how do I look?”, “I want your honest opinion”. All of these are pretty loaded questions. Do we really want the truth or do we really want the other person to enable our insecurities that we are seeking approval from someone else to begin with? When you have self approval, your questions are no longer loaded! You seek answers from others because you want their perspective, NOT their approval. HUGE difference.
When I listen to my girls share their descents, all I do in response is remind them how to RISE. It’s not my job to jump on the bashing bandwagon. It’s my job as their friend to remind them of the incredible soul that they are and have just forgotten. I remind them that there is no human on this planet that can give them answers to the questions they seek other than themselves. It NEVER matters what everyone else does, or how they do it. No one walks your journey. My job is not to judge or condemn, its to be there to remind you of who YOU, they, we are. Be a mirror to someone, remind them of all the beauty, strength and power they possess, within themselves. TIME TO RISE!!
“We can not become what we want by remaining what we are.” – max depree
So much love and respect.
Xo-e
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